We billed it as ‘a multi-sensory evening of interaction’. We called it Chat with Chaat, as we braided together the eating of street food from Delhi (chaat) and the interaction around cross-cultural conversations (chat) … with some games (one of which is described here).
We’ve hosted five of these evenings around New Zealand in recent weeks, in which about 160 people have participated. Gee – it was a lot of work, particularly for Barby as she made, or sourced, all the chaat. But we had a lot of help from family and friends … and I think we’d do it all again.
Here is the combination of the chaat (in pictures) and the chat (in words):
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making the queen of chaats, the pani puri |
WHY? [On this occasion I let him pay]. The idea here was to surface the difference between resourcing and partnership (which I did more fully in a post here). ‘Resourcing’ assumes some have something to give – usually the people/organisations from the wealthier ‘west’ – and the ‘rest’ have something to receive. This creates dependency and obligation, both of which are unwise. Far better to build partnerships founded on friendships in which the giving and receiving flow both ways.
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kara pori, even wrapped in authentic Indian newspaper |
WHY? The idea here was to surface the way religion is such a private affair in New Zealand, whereas in so many countries in the majority world, it is very public. My students are always stunned when I tell them that 41% of New Zealanders describe themselves as having ‘no religion’. The world’s problems are never going to be solved by people like that … because religion is part of life for most peoples. Also, converts in the majority world are more likely to see conversion as drawing a ‘line-in-the-sand’ as life becomes different now – whereas in the ‘west’ we like to keep the lines out of the sand. Studies show that it is hard to pick any differences between the lives of believers and unbelievers. We like it like that. It makes us feel relevant and we think it is the key to mission. We are wrong and we desperately need the help of the church in the majority world to show us the way forward.
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jelabi |
WHY? The point here is similar to the previous one, but I tried to steer it in another direction. Talk of a global village has a consequence. The global church is a village church. We need to live our lives with a far greater awareness of our sisters and brothers around the majority world, looking for ways to express solidarity with them. So, yes, many urbanised Indians from Christian families do not think that yoga is an issue – but those who have come out of Hinduism usually do. Again and again, when I’ve asked, they are strong and clear: there is no place for yoga in the life of the believer and they give their reasons. We should be guided by them and stand with them far more than we do.
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samosa |
WHY? The point here is simply to demonstrate how these characteristics can so easily convey a lack of respect for others – and even for God, in certain circumstances (like public worship). I’ve often been embarrassed by the sloppiness of visiting Kiwis and I’ve often been embarrassed by myself with the times I slip into sarcasm … and it just does not work.
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moong dal |
WHY? [Never had time to use this one – but it is a goodie!] The point here is to surface the priority of Jesus as Lord and the reality of God as good … especially for people who have far more reason to think otherwise than I do in New Zealand. Suffering for Jesus’ sake is so real and so common – and yet so also is the Lordship of Christ and the Goodness of God. It challenges me so much.
the mango lassi (please – that is ‘luh-see’) was always popular, as Alice will testify |
Paul
About Me

the art of unpacking
After a childhood in India, a theological training in the USA and a pastoral ministry in Southland (New Zealand), I spent twenty years in theological education in New Zealand — first at Laidlaw College and then at Carey Baptist College, where I served as principal. In 2009 I began working with Langham Partnership and since 2013 I have been the Programme Director (Langham Preaching). Through it all I've cherished the experience of the 'gracious hand of God upon me' and I've relished the opportunity to 'unpack', or exegete, all that I encounter in my walk through life with Jesus.
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