As a way of celebrating my fiftieth birthday I invited a bunch of friends to go with me on a pilgrimage to Marsden Cross in the Bay of Islands – the site of the first preaching of the gospel in Aotearoa-New Zealand. Along the way we stopped at various places where I told a little of my story decade-by-decade, as well as sharing a hymn and introducing friends from each decade.
#1 – the decade of heritage and hunger
I now recognise that one of the ways in which God has poured his amazing grace on me was by placing me in a family with a long and strong Christian heritage. While I have had no dramatic conversion, I did kneel beside my hepatitus-ridden sister’s bed in Chandigarh on 5 March 1967 and accept Jesus into my heart. I remember having a hunger for God from those early years. Nowhere was this more evident than in those evening services at Edgehill in Mussoorie where I used to love to select Keswick Hymnbook #213 at every opportunity.
Stay’d upon Jehovah, hearts are fully blest;
Finding as he promised, perfect peace and rest.
[from “Like a River Glorious”]
#2 – the decade of choosing and calling
Delhi Bible Fellowship and Mt Albert Baptist Church became the contexts in which I grew as a Christian. Slowly I gained an appreciation that God had chosen me and therefore considered me to be choice. Looking back I recognise that I suppressed a call into ‘the ministry’ – opting for the family’s default option of medicine. However, I failed to be accepted into Medical School. Within days of that failure I became convinced of God’s call to be a pastor as I sat one Sunday night by the purple pillars in Mt Albert Baptist. A few months later – as the Russians were invading Afghanistan – I found myself listening to John Stott open up the early chapters of Romans and just knew that biblical exposition was the calling on my life.
O teach me, Lord, that I may teach the precious things Thou dost impart;
And wing my words that they may reach the hidden depths of many a heart.
[from “Lord, Speak to Me, That I May Speak”]
#3 – the decade of foundations and fragility
I cannot imagine my life without the foundations provided by my theological education at Trinity Evangelical Divinity School, my time as a pastor at Georgetown Baptist Church (Invercargill), and my marriage to Barby and the impact which she and our five children (Stephen, Alyssa, Martin, Bethany, and Joseph) have had on me. The love I had for them – but even more, the love they had for me! And yet during these very years I knew dark times as I confronted my own emotional fragility, really for the first time. I knew despair, maybe even depression. But I also began to learn that a secret of the Christian life was not the strength of my grip on God’s hand, but the strength of His grip on mine.
Hold Thou my hand, the way is dark before me, without the sunlight of Thy face divine;
But when by faith I catch its radiant glory, what heights of joy, what rapturous songs are mine.
[from “Hold Thou My Hand”]
#4 – the decade of aspiration and acceptance
After thinking that I was called-for-life to be a pastor, that call lifted like a cloud as I approached my thirtieth birthday. Surprisingly, I started the decade not so much as a pastor, but as a lecturer (at Bible College of New Zealand). Aspiration as a lecturer was fanned into flame. I wanted to be the best I could be. These were the years where I discovered a parental-like love for students and a delight in watching their punga-like growth. I already miss them! Then even more surprisingly, I closed the decade not so much as a lecturer, but as a leader (as Principal at Carey Baptist College). I remained a reluctant leader as it was such an isolating life, particularly in those middle years, for which I was unsuited. But still I gave myself fully to it and tried to be the best I could be as I accepted it as the call of God on my life.
O choose me in my golden time, in my dear joys have part;
For Thee the glory of my prime, the fullness of my heart!
[from “Lord, in the Fullness of My Might”]
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Ben Carswell sharing a devotional |
With that tsunami on that Boxing Day something broke inside me. A veil was lifted. I saw the world with new eyes. I began to feel its pain with fresh intensity. I wept uncontrollably, repeatedly. My children were getting to me. Alyssa worked in Kolkata’s slums and came home and immediately put “compassion: to suffer with” on her wall. Stephen commenced research into Africa’s darkest realities and eventually went off to Uganda to advocate for refugee children, among the most vulnerable people in our world. The Bible was getting to me. “From one man God created all the peoples of the world”, implying they are all equal and all equally precious. The implication of the global village was getting to me. If we live in a global village then the global church is a village church where the poorest of the poor are my near neighbours. At the same time I was rediscovering the most overlooked truth in the Western church: the Christian hope. A day is coming when all wrongs will be righted and all rights will be vindicated – and that for all time. While we are scared of that day, the most vulnerable and the most oppressed in this world long for that day – and even sing about it, as did the Psalmist. I began begging God for a role even closer to this action. He has been gracious.
All men shall dwell in His marvelous light, races long severed His love shall unite.
Justice and truth from His sceptre shall spring, wrong shall be ended when Jesus is King.
[from “Sing We the King”]
nice chatting
Paul
About Me

the art of unpacking
After a childhood in India, a theological training in the USA and a pastoral ministry in Southland (New Zealand), I spent twenty years in theological education in New Zealand — first at Laidlaw College and then at Carey Baptist College, where I served as principal. In 2009 I began working with Langham Partnership and since 2013 I have been the Programme Director (Langham Preaching). Through it all I've cherished the experience of the 'gracious hand of God upon me' and I've relished the opportunity to 'unpack', or exegete, all that I encounter in my walk through life with Jesus.
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Paul,
A truly moving and open/honest account of your life-journey so far. You have indeed been blessed, and I pray that you will be even more blessed and be made a blessing.
Philippians 1:21
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Paul thank you for sharing your journey to date, if only our NZ Cricketers could bat with the same consistency and determination! Another Paul acknowledged that he had not already attained or was perfect but was prepared to press on.I admire the honesty with which you have shared your journey and the feedback you have given me and many other students over the years. I can't profess to be one of your punga's as there is still much more I want to do for God, in the 13 years since finishing BCNZ I have learnt that it is not what we do, but how we do it, and doing it unto God and being prepared to trust the nudges he gives us. Below are some thoughts based on Philippians 3 vs. 12-14
With Esteem and Regards
On your 50th
Mark
Philippians 3 vs. 12-14 – Pressing On Toward The Goal
Not that I have already attained or am already perfected, but I press on
That I may lay hold of that for which Christ Jesus has laid hold for me
I know that I have much to learn, I need to sit at the feet of God’s Son
To comprehend what it is he has laid hold for me, to understand and see
I need to seek the Lord with all I am, and in life make him number one
For he is who I seek, I am not perfect, far from it, I can’t like him sinless be
Yet with his helper the Spirit I can seek to do his will, to in him press on
Looking to Christ seeking his face, holding in to all he has planned for me
Brethren, I do not count myself to have apprehended, but one thing I do
Forgetting those things which are behind, and reaching forward
There is so much more I need to understand, at times life’s a zoo
It becomes so busy, that I lose sight of God time with him goes overboard
I am far from perfect, yet God loves me unconditionally even when I feel blue
He calls me to be one with him, to seek his face, and to move forward
Forgetting those things which are behind, seeking healing, pushing thru
For he knows his plans for me, his voice saying Christian soldier onward!
To those things which are ahead, I press toward the goal
Of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus.
I desire to march forward in time with him, with all my soul
For I have the hope that one day in heaven I’ll be with Jesus
Until that day I desire to serve and grow in him whatever the role
Nothing the world can offer compares to being one with Jesus
Mark Maffey, January 2006
(NKJV)
Paul – I love this post so much I read it twice. It resonated with me and I found it very, very moving. Thank you.
Paul, Mark, Andrew – thanks for your engagement with this. I lean towards using the blog as a means of resourcing others – but everynow and then I slip in something more personal and journal-like. I am glad you found it helpful.
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Hi Paul,
One of my interests is Linux. I've just been reading a very interesting blog about communication, here, 'continuous communication'.
http://aseigo.blogspot.com/2009/09/continuous-communication.html
I think there is food for thought in that blog even for us as Christians.
Paul
Paul
Thanks Paul for sharing your journey in such a helpful way 🙂
My son pointed out to me the other day that Ghandi didn't achieve any of the things he is famous for until after he was 46. I was encouraged 🙂
God bless you, I look forward to reading what you write at the end of this decade,
Robyn M-S