wisdom at funerals

There is plenty of wisdom in Ecclesiastes, nowhere more than in ch7.2: “you’ll learn more at a funeral than at a party” (paraphrase mine). I’ve been going to a few funerals recently and learning lots as I do so.

Last week it was Dr John Allen, remembered from my teenage days at Mt Albert Baptist where I hung out with his kids. His son David gave me my first opportunity to preach. His son Philip gave me my copy of JI Packer’s Knowing God. And Priscilla – well, years later I remember getting up to preach at Windsor Park Baptist Church and being so surprised to see her curly mane of red hair in the congregation that I found myself starting my sermon with an exclamatory “Hi, Priscilla”.

It was the tribute from Paul, Priscilla’s husband, that so impacted me. I asked for a copy and permission to quote it here. Paul spoke about his father-in-law’s “moral consistency – a consistency between his beliefs and his actions and between the private and public man … there was no shadow of hypocrisy in him.” Then out tumbled these profound statements:

He was an accomplished person who had status in the world, but was not vain or self-important;
He was wise, but not remote;
He was learned, but not the least pompous;
He loved all his children and grandchildren individually in a special way, but never played favourites;
He was good-humoured, but never mocking or sarcastic;
He had theological depth, but also had a simple and child-like faith throughout his life;
He was knowledgeable about current affairs, but was never opinionated or bigoted;
He was a devoted and highly successful professional man, but was never dismissive or neglectful of his family;
He had pleasure in the whole realm of creation, equally in the cosmos of the night sky, or a bucket of wormy compost;
He enjoyed his own company, but was also full of social graces and was a uniter of people.”

I did not know ‘Uncle John’ well enough to write all this, but I did know him well enough to see how all that is written here could be true. It carries a ring of authenticity – oh yes it does.

The influence of a good person has a way of growing and extending even further after they have died. When I read these words from his son-in-law that is most certainly the case for ‘Uncle John’ with me. And maybe by posting them on this blog, it can be the case for another – maybe others who did not even know him – because here is an example worth following.

nice chatting

Paul

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the art of unpacking

After a childhood in India, a theological training in the USA and a pastoral ministry in Southland (New Zealand), I spent twenty years in theological education in New Zealand — first at Laidlaw College and then at Carey Baptist College, where I served as principal. In 2009 I began working with Langham Partnership and since 2013 I have been the Programme Director (Langham Preaching). Through it all I've cherished the experience of the 'gracious hand of God upon me' and I've relished the opportunity to 'unpack', or exegete, all that I encounter in my walk through life with Jesus.

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